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Homesick | What to Do When You Feel Blue

The words “exciting” and “adventure” have become synonymous with travel, but what do you do when you start to feel homesick on the road? It’s okay to admit it, even on a website like this, filled to the brim with the words “exciting” and “adventure”; somedays I wake up missing my own bed, Sidecar Doughnuts, and the people I love.

It’s been about 3 months since we ended our apartment lease, put all our belongings in storage, and started living on the road. During this time, I’ve seen some of the most beautiful places I’ve ever seen in my life, met some wonderful fellow travelers, and have been lucky enough to get to share all of it with my best friend and love of my life, my husband. Even with him by my side, there have still been a few days here and there where I’ve woken up  feeling blue and missing a familiar face. Here are a few things that have helped me, and hopefully will encourage any other travelers who are feeling homesick.

1. Write Postcards– I know, I know, why waist time buying, writing, and mailing a postcard when there’s facebook, email, and instagram? But there’s something deeply cathartic about slowing down and handwriting a message. Think of one person and look around. What would they like about the city you’re in? Is there something there a hike or restaurant nearby that reminds you of them? Write it out. The day I walked to the post-office with a pile of filled out post-cards in hand made my heart feel much lighter and turned my day around.

2. See Them– Whether you have FaceTime on your phone, or use Skype on your computer, there are so many ways to still see and hear loved ones on the go. Set up a semi-weekly time to chat, brew a cup of your favorite coffee, and settle down for an hour of catching-up. I have a dear friend who has the cutest baby, and every time we FaceTimed she would put her daughter on the screen. It was impossible to be sad with those big kissable cheeks and cute face staring back at me.

3. Branch Out– Meeting new people on the road can be a little hard sometimes. Talk to the locals and see what’s going on in the town. Is there live music anywhere this weekend? Where’s the best place to get a drink? Anytime Alex and I went to any city event, we tried to find at least one person we could get to know and talk to for a bit. If you’re an introvert, start small 🙂 Chat with the person bagging your groceries or the barista making your latte, that way you only have a few minutes to ask questions without feeling obligated to stay and talk longer.

4. Put Down Your Phone– My phone acts as a security blanket sometimes. Awkward situation? Pull out my phone. Feeling bored? Pull out my phone. Feeling happy? Pull out my phone. When I started to feel homesick, I made the mistake of going on Facebook and scrolling through my news-feed. Pictures of all my friends back home getting together and having fun made me even more sad. Many days I had to make the conscious choice to keep my phone in my closed purse instead of in my hand. Be present. Don’t let this traveling season pass you by because you were too caught up in what was going on back home. Embrace the silence of no new message alerts, and live in the moment.

 5. Do Your Hobbies– If you’re a creature of habit, you’ll find comfort in finding a new “normal” on the road. I packed my yoga mat and used yelp to find hot yoga studios in whatever city we were in. It felt so good to walk into a room and already know what to do. Keeping up your hobbies, whether it’s scrap-booking or hiking, will bring a little piece of home with you wherever you go.

6. Find Groups with Common Interests– Did you know that some mountain biking shops put together group rides and provide shuttles for a flat fee? All you have to do is call to sign up, pay a fee, and show up, it’s that easy. Alex and I also found a lot of comfort in going to church together since that’s something we would have done back home. Most churches will also usually have a mid-week gathering, so if you know your weekend is going to be packed with all-day hikes but you still want to attend a service this is a very convenient option.

Have you ever been homesick on the road? What did you do to change your situations? Let us know by typing a comment below, you never know who you might be helping 🙂

Never stop exploring,

Camille

Lifestyle Thoughts

California Dreamin’

 

Hey there, fellow traveler! We know you. Yes, you! The daydreamer who wants to see the world. In between travel plans, you find yourself living vicariously through travel magazines and an ever growing bucket list. Pulled between your day-to-day responsibilities and dreams of distant voyages you wonder if there will ever be the time, place, and money to do it all. How do we know? We are one in the same.

Recently, the window of opportunity of a lifetime has opened for us, and we are taking full advantage of it. Sounds glamorous, right? “Window of opportunity”. Well, let’s just say that at first I didn’t see it that way. When our apartment rate went up through the roof, Alex and mine’s plans of saving up for a house and still afford traveling started to shrink. The answer seemed simple: work harder, make more money, sacrifice, and in the end it will all pay off. We’ll have a house in Orange County and we’ll finally be free… until we start paying a mortgage. *Breathes into a paper bag* There was a set list of rules in my mind telling me that after being married for almost five years, being done with school, and getting a good job, we were supposed to buy a home and start a family. Waaaaaait a second, where did that list even come from? I still think it’s an amazing list, I have so many hopes bundled up in those few words. The only problem is that we didn’t add our own spice to it. Without even realizing it, we were following a script. We forgot to dream.

Dreaming has always been an important aspect of our relationship. If you could have any job, what would it be? If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you go? What would you if you won the lottery? If you could launch any non-profit, what would it do? The point of dreaming isn’t always to set standards and complete them; those are goals. When we dream reality meets fantasy, and our brains finally get the fresh air it needs.

“What kind of life do we want to build together?” is a big question we often ask each other; it’s been a popular one in the past month and a half as we have been cooking up this plan. Our decision to move out of the OC and live on the road was a bittersweet one, made over copious amounts of donuts, tears, and prayers. We love our friends, family, and so many aspects of life in Southern California. Leaving wasn’t a choice made out of the need to escape, we are running towards a new chapter together. One where we do find our “forever home” and start a family. One where work-life balance is a little more achievable. One where for the next few months we taste, see, and experience new places together.

Alex will be having normal work days, but instead of being in an office, he will be working from home or local coffee shops. Tech chique geek by day, mountain biker extraordinaire and beer enthusiast by night. I, on the other hand, quit my dream job for a new dream, and even though I miss my preschoolers and coworkers, I know that later in life I can always pick it back up. For now, we’ll be soaking up every last drop of this road trip season. It’s not forever, just until the next dream comes along.

Dream on,

Xoxo Camille